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What do do when you feel both bliss AND grief.

BLISS & GRIEF

Last night I went to bed dreaming of creating a joyful celebratory PranaShakti class and woke up at 5 feeling uneasiness in the pit of my stomach.

After lighting candles and saying prayers I opened my computer to begin preparing for class and discovered the horrors of chemical attacks in Syria.

Immediately back at my altar, praying, I heard “Dance your grief to clear your heart. Then send bliss energy to all who are in pain.”

It seems impossible to feel bliss (deep joy and the ecstasy of being alive) when so many are suffering. But it’s a discipline I’m practicing because I’ve learned that I cannot suffer enough to ease a person’s suffering. In fact, my mind cannot create solutions from a place of suffering.

So we danced bliss AND grief to recalibrate our bodies, minds and emotions in order to then step back into the world to be of service – each in our own way.

I recorded the opening song “Be the Light” by Paul Luftenegger and wanted to share it with you so you can move to the beautiful melody and lyrics to open your heart and move emotions through and out of your body.

May all beings be well,
Deb

Sending you peace: a short meditation I made just for you.

Dear Ones,

I’m on day 3 of leading my annual women’s Bliss Retreat.  Each morning I wake up rested before 5 a.m. and sit on the balcony of my jungle palapa.  The sky is like black velvet sprinkled with brilliant diamonds.  It’s so easy to meditate here.  The sounds of the ocean waves harmonize with my own breath and I drop into a state of deep peacefulness and calm.

This morning I finished my meditation as the sun was rising and had the idea to record a short meditation for you…..to share the sound of the ocean waves and to support you in finding peace and calm amidst the chaos of “normal” life.

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A peaceful meditation for you.

Con abrazos,

Deb

What’s going on? Insights from my two favorite evolutionary futurists.

Things are unsettled.

Some might say we’re in crisis.

What is going on?

Well, I’m no expert….but I’ve been fortunate to study with two brilliant evolutionary futurists who have helped me understand what’s going on and where we humans are on the evolutionary journey.

Let me introduce you to them:

Dr. Robert Keck
I spent hours mesmerized by Dr. Robert Keck at the National Wellness Conference several years in a row.  Dr. Keck had polio as a child and was catapulted into a lifelong search for healing and meaning.  He became a United Methodist Minister and an Evolutionary Theologian, and when he spoke, he filled the room with his passion for Spirit and Life.  I’ll never forget during one of his lectures when he said,

“Humanity is poised to move from ‘adolescence’ into spiritual maturity. …as long as we don’t commit teenage suicide first.”

Barbara Marx Hubbard
Buckminister Fuller said, “There is no doubt in my mind that Barbara Marx Hubbard, who helped introduce the concept of futurism to society, is the best informed human now alive regarding futurism and the foresights it has produced.”

The recent victory at Standing Rock is confirms Barbara’s perspective. “Crises precede transformation….and problems are evolutionary drivers.”

If Barbara is right, then we are definitely being driven to transform and evolve!

I’ve learned so much from these two powerful teachers that I made a short video for you with a synopsis of their insights into what’s going on.  I hope it not only informs but uplifts and inspires you.

 

On the journey with you,

Deb

A quick and simple way to clear emotional energies.

Dear Ones,

I’ve been thinking about emotions a lot in the last two weeks. You see, one of the gifts of the Feminine is emotion.  For hundreds of years, emotions weren’t considered as valuable as intellect, so women (and men who were in touch with their emotions) were denigrated.  But within the last 40 years, the field of psychoneuroimmunology has shone a light on the value and power emotions have in everything from physical health to leadership skills.

Unfortunately, unbalanced or wounded Feminine energy is overly emotional. And when we are overly emotional we are reactive instead of responsive.

Not only do our own emotions affect us, but other people’s emotions affect us as well.   Neuroscientist, Dr. Candace Pert once said

Emotion is chemistry, but it’s also physics and vibrations. Neurotransmitters are chemicals, but they carry an electrical charge. The electrical signals in our brains and bodies affect the way cells interact and function.”

Pert said that just as our individual cells carry an electrical charge, so does the body as a whole. Like an electromagnet generating a field, Pert said that people have a positive charge above their heads and a negative charge below. “So we’re actually sending out various electrical signals – vibrations – to everyone around us.

Which brings me to a simple practice I guide my dance class in before each class begins. My prayer is that this helps you clear emotional energies and restores your ability to respond instead of react to situations in your life.


Big hugs,
Deb

Bring It On!

Those who will not slip beneath
the still surface on the well of grief

turning downward through its black water
to the place we cannot breathe

will never know the source from which we drink,
the secret water, cold and clear,
nor find in the darkness glimmering
the small round coins
thrown by those who wished for something else.

~David Whyte
The Well of Grief

 

I’m no stranger to grief.

When I was 30, I was devastated by a sweeping cascade of losses.  In a 3 month period, I lost a pregnancy, my marriage, my home, my ability to handle managerial responsibilities as a hospital department director, my position in society and all the dreams of the life I thought I was building.

The two years following those losses were as transformational as they were challenging.  I call them “the years of tears” because I never knew when I would be overcome with waves of grief.  

One of the many gifts I received from those years was the ability to fully and unapologetically grieve and emerge with insights and treasures – like the  ‘source’ and the ‘small round coins’ in David Whyte’s poem.   Another gift I received was the ability to hold sacred space for another’s grieving.

In the last 18 months I’ve experienced another series of losses (the end of a 20 year marriage, loss of property, wellness and dreams) which culminated in my son’s departure for college.   

I know many of you reading this have children who have recently headed off to college or married.  While college and marriage are life changes to be celebrated – I also know there’s a kind of grief for the parents.  In my case, I knew I’d feel the loss of my son’s presence and my role in his life deeply.  

So I prepared.

I organized my life to allow for the time I would need in order to dive fully into it and move through to the other side.  Instead of trying to carry on business as usual: seeing clients, teaching classes, giving keynote addresses…. I drastically reduced my commitments for 6 months.  For the 3 months prior to taking my son to college I kept only the absolutely necessary items on my agenda in order to be fully present for the experiences of high school graduation, Olympic Swim Trials, packing and moving.  I also allowed myself the time to rest, walk with friends, cry, journal, cry, pray, cry, dance, cry, sleep, cry and – when I simply couldn’t handle any more….binge-watch Netflix and cry ☺

For the 3 months after dropping him off at school I scheduled myself to travel and lead workshops and retreats interspersed with time for resting and healing.  In fact I’m writing to you from my friend Britt Steele’s YogaFarm where I’ve spent 2 weeks hanging out with goats, donkeys, horses and golden retrievers; eating veggies from the garden, resting, doing yoga, dancing and leading a weekend retreat.  

I’m telling you all of this because I can’t find many examples in our culture of ways to take care of ourselves when we are grieving a life transition like this.  What I know in my bones is that diving in and fully feeling grief is actually more effective and efficient than putting on a happy face and moving on too quickly.

I also know, that having allowed for deep grieving, I’m suddenly feeling ready to move on to the next phase of my life.  It’s such a great feeling that I wanted to share one of my favorite songs to dance to when I’m at the end of grieving and ready to BRING IT ON!  Hope you enjoy the music and that you’ll dance along with me ☺

 

 

Music:  Bring It On by Jana Stanfield http://www.JanaStanfield.com

Bring it on!
Deb

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