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Set Your Loved Ones Free

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On Children
 Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

Last week as I was helping my son pack for a 2 week trip to California with his swim team, I found myself feeling the same kind of ‘not wanting to let him go’ feelings I had on the first day of preschool.  After he left for his big adventure I found myself feeling a sort of dull ache in my heart.  Sort of a homesick kind of feeling.   I have those feelings often.  Not just for my son, but for people I love deeply.   Over the years I’ve learned that I tend to over-nurture and hold on in co-dependent ways – and having worked with hundreds of clients, I realize I’m not alone in those tendencies!  So I’ve developed a practice that helps me and my clients let go of people we love so that they – and we – are free.

When I first began this practice, I was very hesitant.  I thought letting someone go was synonymous with not loving them.   I thought cutting energy cords was synonymous with cutting someone out of my life.  But after using this technique (and tweaking it over the years) I have discovered that letting someone go in this way is a most loving and caring action – for them and for me.  It allows them to connect to the real source of life energy rather than mistakenly believing that I am the source of their life energy.  It allows them to be free to expand into their fullness without any limitations that I might unwittingly be placing on them.  And it allows me to do the same.

You can do this with your children, parents, siblings, pets, friends, spouse, co-workers…anyone you love and wish to set free. 

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Here’s how I do it:

  1. I create a small altar with items that represent the person I am setting free and items that represent Divine Love. (I always have a representation of earth, air, fire and water on my altars. In this photo you’ll see crystals (earth), a vase of flowers (water and air – flowers represent air), a candle (fire)  You’ll also see other items that represent my son and Divine Love.)
  2. I light a candle
  3. I offer gratitude for the person.
  4. I close my eyes and ask to be filled with Divine Love.
  5. I take a deep breath.
  6. Then I imagine the person standing in front of me. I imagine all the energetic cords connecting the two of us.  (Relax.  If you are someone who doesn’t easily ‘see’ things in your imagination, just have the thought.)
  7. With my heart, I call forth Archangel Michael and ask him to cut all the cords of energy connecting me to this person.
  8. As the cords of energy are cut, I imagine the person’s energy returning to them and my energy returning to me. I feel my energy fill up and I see their energy fill up and get bigger.
  9. Then I say (out loud or silently): “I love you and I release you to your experience of life.  You are connected to the source of life and you are free to expand.  And I am connected to the source of life, and I am free to expand.”
  10. As I say that I imagine them being held in the palm of God’s hand, surrounded by angels and I imagine myself the same way.
  11. Then I say “thank you, thank you, thank you.” (as the Christian mystic, Meister Eckhart said “If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is ‘thank you,’ it will be enough.”)

I hope this practice helps you as much as it has helped me.

In love and freedom,

Deb

PS- There are only 11 Divine Your Life sessions available this summer.

Knowing and asking for what you want

I asked and received
Exactly what I wanted.
That’s heaven on earth.

Knowing and asking for what you want
There was a time in my life when I thought that having to ask for what I wanted somehow negated the gift. I thought a gift was only a gift if the giver gave without you having to ask for what you desired. This, of course, led to many a disappointing occasion.

Thankfully, a beloved friend introduced me to “The Five Love Languages” twenty years ago and it opened my eyes to a whole new understanding of gift giving. What I learned about myself is that my preferred love languages are ‘quality time’ and ‘acts of service.’

This information changed everything. Let me give you an example:

This year when my son was trying to decide what to get his girlfriend for Valentine’s Day, I saw the perfect teachable moment. I explained the concept of  “The Five Love Languages” – that everyone has a preferred way of being shown love and appreciation.

Some people prefer gifts.
Others prefer words of affirmation.
While others prefer acts of service, physical touch or quality time.

During our discussion I shared with him my preferred love languages (acts of service and quality time) and he discovered his (quality time and words of affirmation.)

Fast forward to Mother’s Day:  The week before Mother’s Day I asked my son if he would pick me up from the airport when I arrived home from a business trip (act of service).  I also asked if we could spend the evening together (quality time.)

So instead of feeling disappointed (read: not loved or truly appreciated) with a quickly purchased card and bouquet of flowers, I received a ride home from the airport (act of service), a handwritten note (words of affirmation), flowers (gift), an evening of dinner and a movie cuddled on the sofa (quality time and physical touch.)

Needless to say, I was in bliss.
And he felt proud that he had provided me with a meaningful Mother’s Day.
Win-win. Heaven on earth.

Would you like to know your preferred love language or the love language of your spouse, kid or friend? They’ve got a great quiz and all sorts of resources on the Five Love Language website.

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Let these remarkable women inspire you

Certain women dance
Merrily into your life
And you pray ‘THANK YOU!’

Last weekend I had the huge pleasure of interviewing women whom I love and respect as friends, mentors and family. Whoever said you can’t mix business with pleasure, certainly never met us!

And whoever warned against doing business with family never met THIS family!

Three generations of Northrup women have been a powerful influence in every area of my life – including, but not limited to our USANA business.  I treasure them like crazy, and my heart is so full after spending time with them last weekend that I want to share the love with you.

The Matriarch

Any time I have a chance to listen to Edna Northrup’s life stories, I grab it.  Her motto in life is “NO LIMITS” – and she embodies that motto!  Just watch this 3 minute video and you’ll be blessed with her amazing energy and zest for life. It’s the next best thing to being with her in person.

The Doctor

Women’s health pioneer and best-selling author, Dr. Christiane Northrup needs no introduction. She continues to challenge the status quo and expand the possibilities for women to be fully empowered. She sees her job as a doctor to help women learn everything that can go RIGHT with their bodies….not someone who looks for what’s wrong.

This is one of my favorite interviews with Dr. Northrup. It will change your perception of aging and open up a whole new level of possibility for what it means to be ageless!

Dr. Christiane Northrup Tapping Solution Video

The Athlete

Penny Northrup Kirk

Photo Credit to Vanity Fire

You may not be familiar with Dr. Northrup’s sister, Penny. Penny was a member of the United States Ski Team from 1968-1972 competing on the world cup tour. She’s the mother of 3 grown guys and a very successful USANA business owner. My nickname for Penny is “Switzerland.” She has the ability to rise above any conflict, take the 30,000 foot view and then offer the most grounded, practical, spiritual solution. I don’t have a video of Penny, so I’ll share one of the best pieces of advice she gave me: I was stressing about a conversation I’d had with a potential business associate…beating myself up because I felt I hadn’t been well prepared for the conversation, and Penny said:

“You can’t say the right thing to the wrong person, or the wrong thing to the right person.”

Phew! Instant relief! I’ve clung to those words on many occasions and they have served me well. I hope they serve you, too.

The Next Generation

Kate Northrup-Watts

Photo Credit to Vanity Fire

Kate Northrup is, and always has been, a creative entrepreneur. She started her business with USANA Health Sciences at the age of 18 and has been taking the world by storm ever since! The biggest thing I’ve learned from Kate is to BE YOURSELF. When she started her online journal in 2010, it was just that: an online journal. She wasn’t intentionally trying to create a persona in order to monetize her journal, she simply felt compelled to share her life. And that authentic, bold action turned into a blog that is the basis of a high 6 figure business.

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Now you can see why my heart was overflowing after spending a weekend with these Northrup women. If you would like to know more about mixing business with pleasure and doing business with us, simply send me a message and we’ll set up a time to talk.

Love,

Deb

Light a candle, eat chocolate, connect and dance…

Mother Nature on Britt’s Yoga Farm is stunning! Last Sunday, before the events of the week unfolded, I led a retreat at my good friend Britt Bensen’s YogaFarm.  The whole day was amazing!  We did yoga, danced, laughed, connected, cried, ate, walked in nature and, most importantly, remembered who we were…returned to the center of our beings.

Aaahhh…

Our prayer was that the love, peace and joy we all experienced during our sacred time together be a blessing to all beings.  Little did we know how needed that prayer was.
Mother Nature on Britt’s Yoga Farm is stunning!

In order to bring some of the delicious goodness of our retreat into your home I wanted to share the recipe for the amazing, anti-oxidant-rich, raw chocolate dessert Britt made.  (I highly recommend you visit Britt’s website to get more of her recipes and learn more from her!)

Chocolate balls

  • 1 cup raw walnuts
  • 8-10 pitted medjool dates
  • 1/2 cup powdered cacao
  • 1 T. ghee or coconut oil
  • pinch of sea salt
  • raw cacao nibs

Super simple, super food:
In a food processor, chop the walnuts until they make a course walnut flour. With the food processor on, slowly add the pitted dates. Then add the powdered cacao and the salt. The mixture should hold together when you pinch it in your hands — if it doesn’t add either a little more ghee, coconut oil, or water.

Roll them into balls, then roll them in more cacao and/or raw cacao nibs. You can make the outsides even more scrumptious by rolling them in gogi berries, ginger flakes, coconut flakes, or add a little cinnamon or fennel powder to the cacao before rolling.

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The most fun you’ll ever have cleaning out your closet.

Clothing Swap Food

Last weekend I had the most fun cleaning out my closet! It all started with an idea from my friend Marianne MacKenzie who wanted to create a “Clothes Swap” with a twist. The twist? Well, Marianne’s specialties are soul coaching and Feng Shui, so she wanted to teach women the deeper aspects of clearing their closets. She also wanted to bring in her pal and style expert Michelle Rodriguez to teach women how to adorn and appreciate their beautiful bodies at any size or shape. What a great idea! Of course, I wanted to add pleasurable movement and delicious food to the day so I created a play-list and invited my friend “The Spicy Heretic” (aka Tina Moody) to provide sumptuous gluten-free, low-glycemic fare.

The end result was more fun than words can express. Fifteen women arrived with bags of clothes, jewelry, belts, bags, shoes and scarves that they no longer desired. We laughed, learned, danced, “shopped”, ate and laughed some more. We tried things on that we would never have thought to try on – and loved how we looked! Everyone left with bags of goodies – for free. And we took twenty bags to 2 charities when it was all over.

Talk about a win-win-win situation! So what are you waiting for?

Connect with some experts in decluttering and style and create a fun clothing swap in your own community. Then send me some photos of the fun you had!

Clothing Swap

Accessories

Clothing Swap

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