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3 things that help when it’s hard to get out of bed in the morning

I know both sides of mornings.

Most of my life, I’ve awakened early, easily and enthusiastically.  Excited to greet the day.  (a fact that annoyed the heck out of some family members and college roommates)

But during dark times I’ve struggled to even get out of bed.

I’m not having a personal dark time, but I’m feeling the intensity of fear and frustration all around me – so much so, that one morning this week I found it hard to get of bed.
What do you do when you’re struggling to get out of bed?

Since chances are good you may have felt this way, or may feel this way at some point in your life, I thought I’d share what worked for me this week:

  1. GIVE THANKS
    While still in bed, begin listing all the things that are going right in that very moment. For example, while you were sleeping your heart kept beating and you kept breathing without any conscious effort on your part. There’s a roof over your head. You have food in your kitchen – and if you don’t, it’s easy to get some. You have clean running water and a flushing toilet. At the flick of a finger you can light up the room. (you get the idea..)
  2. LOOK FOR THE LIGHT
    As soon as possible, light a candle and sing or say some prayers. My favorite prayer is the Lord’s Prayer in Aramaic. I also chant mantras in Sanskrit to change my vibration. I hope you have a favorite prayer or mantra. If you don’t, I highly recommend that you explore until you find one (or several) that opens your heart and connects you to God/Goddess/Source/The Creator


3. BE THE LIGHT
Set an intention to be of service. Sometimes we’ve become so focused on what’s going wrong in our lives or in the world around us that we’ve forgotten that we can be of service. As soon as we remember that we are here for a purpose, we can see a Light in the darkness. It may be as simple as calling a friend in need or sweeping your neighbors front walkway. I love the way the Course in Miracles has us ask:

What would You have me do?
Where would You have me go?
What would You have me say, and to whom?

May you find light and be light wherever you go,
Deb

First thing in the morning: Do THIS not THAT.

If the only prayer you ever say
in your entire life is
“Thank You,”
it will be enough.

~ Meister Eckhart

 

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I recently moved and lost my landline, so instead of having a telephone and an alarm clock on my nightstand, I now have a cell phone there.  (on airplane mode to lower EMF exposure)

WHOA……I had NO IDEA that using my cell phone as an alarm clock could have such a deleterious effect on my morning routine!   It’s so tempting to look at Social Media, emails, texts and (God forbid) the ‘news’ before even getting out of bed.

Has this ever happened to you? If so, this is NOT OKAY.  

It’s bad for your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health to start your day by checking in with the outside world before checking in with your inside world.

Even though I’ve had a dedicated morning practice for years, I was easily seduced into reading emails, texts and social media posts while still snuggled under the covers when I began using my cell phone to wake me up.  It didn’t take long to notice the negative effects:  I was more anxious than usual.  My mind was scattered.    I skipped my morning practice, so my body was tight and I felt disconnected from Source.  I needed caffeine to get going.  And, worst of all, I felt aimless.

DON’T START YOUR DAY LIKE THAT!

DO THIS INSTEAD:

  1. If you use your cell phone as an alarm clock, switch it to airplane mode to lower EMF exposure.  If you MUST leave your phone on, make sure it’s at least 6 feet away from your bed.
  2. When you wake up, take a few minutes while still in bed to breathe and listen to this gratitude meditation I recorded for you while I was leading a Bliss Retreat in Mexico last week.  Gratitude has been shown to enhance every area of life by scientists, philosophers and mystics alike….and it’s a MUCH more beautiful way to start your day. <Tweet It>


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Click here to download the gratitude meditation I recorded for you while sitting on the beach in the early morning hours as last week’s full moon was setting.

May your days be filled with gratitude.

Being a Warrior Goddess for Beauty, Truth and Love.

This is a banner week for me.

I’m leading my first ever teacher training….teaching women how to lead PranaShakti dance class.

As you know, I love teaching my  PranaShakti dance class.  It’s way more than a dance class. As the women in my class say, it’s church + a workout + a dance party + therapy”.  For me, it’s all of those things….plus it’s my community. My sisterhood. My red tent.  I can’t explain the huge love I have for this class and these women.  It’s beyond words.  

For more than 15 years, women have asked me if I’d train them to teach the way I teach.

And for 15 years I’ve said “No…  I simply don’t have the bandwidth or the desire. My energy is focused on providing for and raising my amazing son.”

But things changed.

The day my son signed his letter of intent to join the swim team at the University of Missouri, a portion of my brain was freed up and I literally heard a voice say, You can train PranaShakti teachers now.  

So I called the women who had been asking me to train them and I committed to creating a training.  That was in October of 2015, and I set the training date for July 28-31, 2016.

I chose to make this first training a ‘beta test’ in order make sure I create the best teacher training possible.

To my surprise, when I made a single post on FaceBook about my intention to lead this beta test training, TWENTY-TWO women enrolled in less than 4 hours!

So as you read this, I am sharing everything I know with those 22 women so they can return to their communities and spread the healing.

One of the purposes of a PranaShakti class is to help women move and express emotion through their bodies.  I speak with women all over the world when I’m doing Intuitive Guidance sessions and I’d say that at least 90% of the time my Guides insist that I help these women find some place to dance where they live.  Women need to dance!  

There’s a lot going on in the world and in your own life, so I know you are feeling many emotions right now.  I hope you have a place to dance and a community to dance with so you can keep moving those emotions through.  If you don’t, then look for Nia , Qoya, Journey Dance, 5 Rhythms, Zumba  or Ecstatic Dance where you live.  And someday, maybe there’ll be a PranaShakti class nearby

Meanwhile, I wanted to share with you what I read in class today as well as the playlist I used. My prayer is that these words help you access stuck emotions and that you will dance to the playlist in order to liberate those stuck emotions. That’s what we did. And we stepped out into the world to radiate beauty, truth and love.

Here’s what I read in class:

Excerpt from *PRONOIA IS THE ANTIDOTE FOR PARANOIA*
By Rob Breszny

Let me remind you who you really are: You’re an immortal
freedom fighter who longs to liberate all sentient creatures from
their suffering. You’re a fun-loving messiah who devoutly wants
to help all of your fellow messiahs claim the ecstatic awareness
that is their birthright.

Try to remember. You’re a vortex of fluidic light that has
temporarily taken on the form of a human being, suffering
amnesia about your true origins. And why did you do that?
Because it was the best way to forge the identity that would
make you such an elemental force in our 14-billion-year
campaign to bring heaven all the way down to earth.

I’m not speaking metaphorically here. You are a mutant deity
in disguise—not a Buddha or a Christ exactly, but of the same
lineage and conjured from the same fire. You have been
around since the beginning of time and will be here after the
end. Every day and in every way, you’re getting better at playing
the preposterously amusing master game we all dreamed up
together before the Big Bang bloomed.

Lately, I must admit, our work has seemed almost comically
impossible. Many of us have given in to the temptation to
believe that everything is upside-down and inside-out.
Ignorance and inertia, partially camouflaged as time-honored
morality, seem to surround us.

Pessimism is enshrined as a hallmark of worldliness.
Compulsive skepticism masquerades as perceptiveness. Mean-
spirited irony is chic. Stories about treachery and degradation
provoke a visceral thrill in millions of people who think of
themselves as reasonable and smart. Beautiful truths are
suspect and ugly truths are readily believed.

So no, at this peculiar turning point in the evolution of our 14-
billion-year-old master game, it’s not easy to carry out our
mission. We’ve got to be both wrathful insurrectionaries and
exuberant lovers of life. We’ve got to cultivate cheerful
buoyancy even as we resist the temptation to swallow thousands
of delusions that have been carefully crafted and seductively
packaged by those messiahs among us who bravely
volunteered to play the role of know-it-all deceivers.

We have to learn how to stay in a good yet unruly mood as we
overthrow the sour, puckered mass hallucination that is
mistakenly referred to as “reality.”

Maybe most importantly, we have to be ferociously and single-
mindedly dedicated to the cause of beauty and truth and love
even as we keep our imaginations wild and hungry and free. We
have to be both disciplined and rowdy.

And here’s the playlist we danced to:

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May you step up as a warrior goddess for beauty, truth and love.

You sister,
Deb

Why I went halfway around the world to heal.

My issues were stuck in my tissues. This is not a normal blog topic, but it’s something I feel called to share with you because I know I’m not the only one who has dealt with this and I’m hoping my story will be helpful.

Last year my marriage ended a few months shy of its 20th anniversary. It was a marriage that I cherished and nourished and tried my best to make work; but ultimately I couldn’t keep it going.

Despite all the tools in my tool belt (prayer, meditation, PranaShakti dance, yoga, journaling, etc) and all the help I received from therapists, body workers, energy workers, spiritual guides and friends I couldn’t seem to let go of the past and pull myself out of grief, depression, fear and anger.

I knew I needed to let go and move on, but it just wasn’t happening.

 

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Then I received bad lab results.  The stress had taken its toll on my organs, glands and immune system.  This news added a new emotion:  shame.  After all, I’d spent 27 years studying and teaching mind/body techniques for healing.  I, of all people, knew that every cell in my body was eavesdropping on my thoughts.   So why was I still swimming in an ocean of unhealthy thoughts?

 

Unfortunately, knowing that my stressful emotions were the cause of my physical symptoms wasn’t enough to heal me.  So I did what I always do when I can’t find an answer with my intellect:  I prayed for guidance to come in my dreams.  And the very night I said that earnest prayer I received clear guidance to go to India for panchakarma (the Ayurvedic protocol that eliminates toxins and strengthens immunity.)  While it made perfect sense to do panchakarma, I thought there was no way I could take the time to travel all the way to India!   

I felt like one of my clients when they simply can’t see the logic in the guidance I’m offering – only to discover after following the guidance that it was exactly what they needed.  So I ignored all the ‘logical’ reasons why going to India for 3 weeks was not feasible (I’m a single, working mom with a son who’s about to go to college!) and booked the trip anyway.

My whole nervous system instantly relaxed when I arrived at the Ayurvedic hospital high in the mountains of Tamil Nadu, surrounded by tea plantations and eucalyptus trees.  And that was the first step in my healing….relaxing and breathing pure, mountain air.

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Next week I’ll share the exact protocols I followed – and how you can do some of them at home.   Stay tuned

AN INVITATION:

It’s not India….but it’s wonderful self-care you can access for free from wherever you live.  My friend and colleague Ashley Burnett interviewed me along with some of my favorite women (including Terri Cole, Rochelle Scheick and Sianna Sherman) for an online event called the “Uninhibited Women Leadership Conference.”   Just click on the image below to register:

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Set Your Loved Ones Free

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On Children
 Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

Last week as I was helping my son pack for a 2 week trip to California with his swim team, I found myself feeling the same kind of ‘not wanting to let him go’ feelings I had on the first day of preschool.  After he left for his big adventure I found myself feeling a sort of dull ache in my heart.  Sort of a homesick kind of feeling.   I have those feelings often.  Not just for my son, but for people I love deeply.   Over the years I’ve learned that I tend to over-nurture and hold on in co-dependent ways – and having worked with hundreds of clients, I realize I’m not alone in those tendencies!  So I’ve developed a practice that helps me and my clients let go of people we love so that they – and we – are free.

When I first began this practice, I was very hesitant.  I thought letting someone go was synonymous with not loving them.   I thought cutting energy cords was synonymous with cutting someone out of my life.  But after using this technique (and tweaking it over the years) I have discovered that letting someone go in this way is a most loving and caring action – for them and for me.  It allows them to connect to the real source of life energy rather than mistakenly believing that I am the source of their life energy.  It allows them to be free to expand into their fullness without any limitations that I might unwittingly be placing on them.  And it allows me to do the same.

You can do this with your children, parents, siblings, pets, friends, spouse, co-workers…anyone you love and wish to set free. 

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Here’s how I do it:

  1. I create a small altar with items that represent the person I am setting free and items that represent Divine Love. (I always have a representation of earth, air, fire and water on my altars. In this photo you’ll see crystals (earth), a vase of flowers (water and air – flowers represent air), a candle (fire)  You’ll also see other items that represent my son and Divine Love.)
  2. I light a candle
  3. I offer gratitude for the person.
  4. I close my eyes and ask to be filled with Divine Love.
  5. I take a deep breath.
  6. Then I imagine the person standing in front of me. I imagine all the energetic cords connecting the two of us.  (Relax.  If you are someone who doesn’t easily ‘see’ things in your imagination, just have the thought.)
  7. With my heart, I call forth Archangel Michael and ask him to cut all the cords of energy connecting me to this person.
  8. As the cords of energy are cut, I imagine the person’s energy returning to them and my energy returning to me. I feel my energy fill up and I see their energy fill up and get bigger.
  9. Then I say (out loud or silently): “I love you and I release you to your experience of life.  You are connected to the source of life and you are free to expand.  And I am connected to the source of life, and I am free to expand.”
  10. As I say that I imagine them being held in the palm of God’s hand, surrounded by angels and I imagine myself the same way.
  11. Then I say “thank you, thank you, thank you.” (as the Christian mystic, Meister Eckhart said “If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is ‘thank you,’ it will be enough.”)

I hope this practice helps you as much as it has helped me.

In love and freedom,

Deb

PS- There are only 11 Divine Your Life sessions available this summer.

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