Posts Tagged ‘healing’

What do do when you feel both bliss AND grief.

BLISS & GRIEF

Last night I went to bed dreaming of creating a joyful celebratory PranaShakti class and woke up at 5 feeling uneasiness in the pit of my stomach.

After lighting candles and saying prayers I opened my computer to begin preparing for class and discovered the horrors of chemical attacks in Syria.

Immediately back at my altar, praying, I heard “Dance your grief to clear your heart. Then send bliss energy to all who are in pain.”

It seems impossible to feel bliss (deep joy and the ecstasy of being alive) when so many are suffering. But it’s a discipline I’m practicing because I’ve learned that I cannot suffer enough to ease a person’s suffering. In fact, my mind cannot create solutions from a place of suffering.

So we danced bliss AND grief to recalibrate our bodies, minds and emotions in order to then step back into the world to be of service – each in our own way.

I recorded the opening song “Be the Light” by Paul Luftenegger and wanted to share it with you so you can move to the beautiful melody and lyrics to open your heart and move emotions through and out of your body.

May all beings be well,
Deb

What’s going on? Insights from my two favorite evolutionary futurists.

Things are unsettled.

Some might say we’re in crisis.

What is going on?

Well, I’m no expert….but I’ve been fortunate to study with two brilliant evolutionary futurists who have helped me understand what’s going on and where we humans are on the evolutionary journey.

Let me introduce you to them:

Dr. Robert Keck
I spent hours mesmerized by Dr. Robert Keck at the National Wellness Conference several years in a row.  Dr. Keck had polio as a child and was catapulted into a lifelong search for healing and meaning.  He became a United Methodist Minister and an Evolutionary Theologian, and when he spoke, he filled the room with his passion for Spirit and Life.  I’ll never forget during one of his lectures when he said,

“Humanity is poised to move from ‘adolescence’ into spiritual maturity. …as long as we don’t commit teenage suicide first.”

Barbara Marx Hubbard
Buckminister Fuller said, “There is no doubt in my mind that Barbara Marx Hubbard, who helped introduce the concept of futurism to society, is the best informed human now alive regarding futurism and the foresights it has produced.”

The recent victory at Standing Rock is confirms Barbara’s perspective. “Crises precede transformation….and problems are evolutionary drivers.”

If Barbara is right, then we are definitely being driven to transform and evolve!

I’ve learned so much from these two powerful teachers that I made a short video for you with a synopsis of their insights into what’s going on.  I hope it not only informs but uplifts and inspires you.

 

On the journey with you,

Deb

4 Healing Practices from India You Can Do At Home

As you know, the guidance to go halfway around the world in order to heal deeply-held trauma in my body came to me in a dream.

While I was there I received Ayurvedic medicine and therapies which were designed to reduce stress and inflammation, support my immune system, remove toxins and rejuvenate mind, body and soul.  Every single day I thought “I can’t wait to share this experience with my community!!!”

Instead of writing about it, I decided to show and tell you about it.    So I made you a short (17 minutes) video.   Just click here to watch.

Healing Connections

In case you don’t have a pen and paper when you’re watching the video, here’s a list of resources I mention:

Ayurvedic massage oils: http://www.BanyanBotanicals.com
Breast massage oil: http://www.PomegranateBreastOil.com
My Free e-book to determine your Ayurvedic Dosha: http://www.DrDebKern.com/free
The “Clear the Way Program”: http://www.DrDebKern.com/clear

***If you want to be coached by me through the “Clear the Way Program” be sure to sign up no later than May 18th *****

Set Your Loved Ones Free

deb_blog_setyourloveonesfree

On Children
 Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

Last week as I was helping my son pack for a 2 week trip to California with his swim team, I found myself feeling the same kind of ‘not wanting to let him go’ feelings I had on the first day of preschool.  After he left for his big adventure I found myself feeling a sort of dull ache in my heart.  Sort of a homesick kind of feeling.   I have those feelings often.  Not just for my son, but for people I love deeply.   Over the years I’ve learned that I tend to over-nurture and hold on in co-dependent ways – and having worked with hundreds of clients, I realize I’m not alone in those tendencies!  So I’ve developed a practice that helps me and my clients let go of people we love so that they – and we – are free.

When I first began this practice, I was very hesitant.  I thought letting someone go was synonymous with not loving them.   I thought cutting energy cords was synonymous with cutting someone out of my life.  But after using this technique (and tweaking it over the years) I have discovered that letting someone go in this way is a most loving and caring action – for them and for me.  It allows them to connect to the real source of life energy rather than mistakenly believing that I am the source of their life energy.  It allows them to be free to expand into their fullness without any limitations that I might unwittingly be placing on them.  And it allows me to do the same.

You can do this with your children, parents, siblings, pets, friends, spouse, co-workers…anyone you love and wish to set free. 

Set your loved ones free.twitter-icon

Here’s how I do it:

  1. I create a small altar with items that represent the person I am setting free and items that represent Divine Love. (I always have a representation of earth, air, fire and water on my altars. In this photo you’ll see crystals (earth), a vase of flowers (water and air – flowers represent air), a candle (fire)  You’ll also see other items that represent my son and Divine Love.)
  2. I light a candle
  3. I offer gratitude for the person.
  4. I close my eyes and ask to be filled with Divine Love.
  5. I take a deep breath.
  6. Then I imagine the person standing in front of me. I imagine all the energetic cords connecting the two of us.  (Relax.  If you are someone who doesn’t easily ‘see’ things in your imagination, just have the thought.)
  7. With my heart, I call forth Archangel Michael and ask him to cut all the cords of energy connecting me to this person.
  8. As the cords of energy are cut, I imagine the person’s energy returning to them and my energy returning to me. I feel my energy fill up and I see their energy fill up and get bigger.
  9. Then I say (out loud or silently): “I love you and I release you to your experience of life.  You are connected to the source of life and you are free to expand.  And I am connected to the source of life, and I am free to expand.”
  10. As I say that I imagine them being held in the palm of God’s hand, surrounded by angels and I imagine myself the same way.
  11. Then I say “thank you, thank you, thank you.” (as the Christian mystic, Meister Eckhart said “If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is ‘thank you,’ it will be enough.”)

I hope this practice helps you as much as it has helped me.

In love and freedom,

Deb

PS- There are only 11 Divine Your Life sessions available this summer.

Be careful what you pray for…

         We all have our ways

         of numbing life

         when it gets too stressful.

                         Some of us watch entire seasons of other people’s lives.

                         While others surf the web

                         use alcohol, cigarettes, drugs or food

                         or, work, work, work, work.

Sugar has been my drug of choice to numb stress for as long as I can remember.  When I’m conscious and aware, I can see that I’m feeling stressed and what I really need is rest, yoga, meditation, dance, a walk, down time with my family or a chat with a friend.  But when I’m not so conscious and aware, I habitually begin numbing with simple sugars like gluten-free crackers, popcorn, dark chocolate, dried fruit, etc.

So last week when I realized I had slipped into those old habits I decided it was time for a sugar cleanse.

On the first day of the cleanse I woke up with this Haiku on my lips:

First step to freedom:

Stop numbing my emotions

With sugar and nice

Be careful what you pray for.

Within hours of writing that poem/prayer my back exploded with pain and muscle spasms.  It was as if all the emotions I had been suppressing surfaced in the form of what my beloved chiropractor called “a cataclysmic meltdown” of my back.

Why, you ask?

Well….one of my core values is HARMONY.

I really, really, really want everyone to be happy and harmonious.  Always.

To that end, I often do whatever it takes to maintain the peace.  Basically, be “nice.”

So if I stopped “being nice” AND I took away my numbing drug of choice, what would happen?

My back exploded at just the thought of it!

 

So here I am.

Heeding the messages that, once un-numbed, are loud and clear:

 

Stop

Reflect

Release what no longer serves

Let Divine Love guide the way.

 

My back no longer has to scream

Sugar is gone, gone, gone

And a new chapter begins.

How about you?  

Have you been numbing yourself?  

Are you ready to pray the prayer to fully feel?  

I promise it’s worth it.

 

1 2