I was doing a sound check the day before my big keynote last week when Nicole Kidman arrived for her presentation. To my surprise and delight, I was invited into the green room to meet her.
Her ethereal beauty is as stunning in person as on screen and it is matched by her kindness, grace, humility, generosity, love, and light.
Here’s what I learned from being with her:
Lesson #1: Stand Tall
Nicole is 5’ 10 ½” tall and the day I met her she was wearing 3” heels. When she stood with me for this photo, she stood tall and draped her arm over the top of my shoulder.
This may not seem like a big deal to you, but at that moment I had nothing short of a complete restructuring of an old belief system. Here’s why: I’m 5’ 9” and have been among the tallest women in every situation for as long I can remember. In group photos, I always towered over other women, which made me feel less feminine. So I’d try to bend my knees or cock my head or angle a hip in order to appear shorter.
But here was one of the most feminine and beautiful women I’ve ever seen and she not only didn’t try to appear shorter, she draped her arm over my shoulder the way a man would.
Something in me shifted at that moment – and from now on I intend to wear heels if I want and stand tall in every situation!
Lesson #2: Embrace Your “Flaws”
During an interview, Nicole was asked what beauty advice she’d give young women. She said, “I’d tell them the same thing my mum told me: the things you get teased about as a kid will one day be your best assets.”
She went on to tell how kids teased her mercilessly in school for being so pale (she’s of Irish heritage), skinny and tall. Then with a mischievous laugh, she said, “…and now look at me. Those are the things I’m known for!”
Lesson #3: We All Want the Same Things
Nicole’s face lit up when she shared the things that matter most to her: her children, the soul love she has with her husband, deep friendship, nurturing and loving people, and equality for women.
As she spoke I was reminded of these instructions from His Holiness the Dalai Lama:
“Spend five minutes at the beginning of each day remembering we all want the same things (to be happy and be loved) and we are all connected to one another.”
Stand tall. Embrace your “flaws.” And remember….we all want the same things.